So I was talking to a friend this week. She's not happy in her marriage. He drinks. And when he does he's not very nice. Not physically abusive but still...
Every time she is about to decide it's time to go, he'll ease up and she decides to wait and see... but she's still not happy.
Made me think of something I read YEARS ago in Reader's Digest. Couldn't tell you the author but the words stuck in my brain like they were super-glued.
"Familiar pain is somehow more comforting than pleasure you're not sure is coming."
Wow. It still strikes right at the heart of me. I truly think that reading those words changed my life. Because they made me consider why I was staying. And thinking about the possibility of pleasure gave me the courage to change things. Not that the rest of my life has been hunky dory but there sure has been pleasure that I would not have had if I had stayed. And I think my girls are better for it as well.
Leaving isn't the right answer for everyone. But it was for me and among other things, I have Reader's Digest to thank for it!
PS I love you Randy - you are definitely the biggest and best pleasure in my life <3